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Is it not enough, yet?

Tag

contentment, cortisol rate, happiness, millenials, mindfulness, purpose in life, social media effect

From where to start? Social media, likes? It is said that the less people like ones photo in instagram, the higher their cortisol rate. Are we consumed by all of this fake impression that we try so bad to look good event to rent a jet plane to get a photo shoot just to post it on social media? Feeling anxious on what will people comment on what we posted in social media as we beg so hard for stranger attention?

So, are we really want to be over the top? When we will feel content? When is the word that all  millennials pursue, described as h-a-p-p-i-n-e-s-s , can be obtained. As above the sky there will always be another sky. We try so had to be the most awesome, the richest, the most popular, the most follower. And yet..still not be happy.

I see a super famous actress which turn out to be not a happy person. I see a mount climber mad because she is accused sharing false information about she reaching on of the highest mountain on earth. She is so desperate of society approval of her achievement. Even though in fact she did reached the peak of the mountain, society still doesn’t believe it. She is upset.

So how to be happy? Leaving all this unnecessary anxiety behind?

 It is to ask ourselves what is my purpose of life, what are my talent, what are my responsibilities, how can I help people in need around me with my presence. Material is important, you need clothes shoes and jacket when you are cold. But don’t let the price tags define you as you are priceless. You cannot be define by money you earned or have.

I watch Chef Renatta podcast and Chef Juna as well. These famous people make their inner circle as place to share their thought and don’t pay much attention on what other person commenting on them. They build their shelters with their inner family and closest friend. As those people who know their real struggle in life. Not just random people of the internet. They don’t really know who is the real Renatta or Juna.

And I respect Trinity -an Indoesian author of travelling  book : Naked Traveller- comment on old school laptop she is using for writing. As long as there is a Microsoft Word in it, she will still use that. So, see the material around you as functional things. As long as it works, go ahead. And price tag is’nt that important.

Imam omar sulaiman said that people brag on something. Depent on their age. When you are a teenagers, you go with Jordan sneakers. When you get older, you probably do not mind wearing jeans from Walmart but the show off level goes higher: wedding party, death ceremony, your house, your job.

So what then? Be true to your self. Cultivate your capability as mankind. Know what your purpose in life. As we prepare for the afterlife, so be prepared for that. What are good deeds that we overlook? What function in family that we forget to conduct?  What is our real contribution to society regading talents that each and everyone of us has been bestowed upon?

Everyone has their own struggler. What you see in social media are only the highlight The real life is not always smiles and perfect angle of photoshoots. Nouman Ali Khan said that in this life we have a quota of happy and sad. Every single person:The Famous or the infamous. The Rich and the poor.The  Men and The women. THe Single or married. The Western or the Eastern. White, black, or people of color.

Yes we struggle in life. It Is not always sunny but sometimes stormy. Some people express their bad time to public, some don’t. But the goal is to feel content. That we have enough warmth in our heart to start the day by building stronger relationships with our family and closest friend. And not to label happiness with money and fame, coz they just don’t aligned.

 Good luck everyone!

Thank you for reading.

Nurul, a mom of two toddlers

31:1:2021

Bogor at dawn, West Java, Indonesia

Tired to be a mom?

Tag

keep sanity for young mom, Life, moms life, mother of toddlers, no nanny, parenting

Having two two toddlers at home. No nanny, no house assistant. One of my son is having toilet training and lately ‘accident’ often happen in the morning. I got to clean the bad with some soap and water sprayed, wash some pillows by hand and washing the bad sheet with washing machine. Yes, more laundry of course.

Then, giving my sons a shower, and put clothes on him to prepare his zoom tahfidz class. At the same time, preparing breakfast for my husband who is working, almost relentlessly, from home and for me and for my sons.

Hanging the next laudry to dry after collecting the laudry that have dried earlier under this rainy season of Indonesia.

Thinking what meals for lunch and dinner. And sweeping the floor. Not to mention doing the dishes I havent finished last night.

What is all of these?

First, yes these all tiring. But, if I do clean the clothes that are stained by urine because of Allah I will feel relieve. “O Allah you asks us to clean the najees, so i did this because of you asking me to do so.”

Second, the meal I prepare. All of the member of my family are amanah for me. It is an honour to prep delicious halal healthy food for them. To make them stay heathy and strong.

Third, laundry and all the routine. I do that to make my family life cycle running normaly. When they need t shirt or pants there are available. No need to stress out because they are run out of dialy wears.

Does my husband help? He does. But his hands are super full right now. Sometime he stay up really late to finish his work. He rarely has free time recently.

It is just not wise to force him to give me a hand. He does throwing the garbage and receiving online groceries or stuff from delivery services before our fence which I appreciate so much.

Why doing all of these? Having family is tiring and raising kids are challenging.

Because that what Allah is asking muslim to do so. We are asked to get married, have kids and raise them properly. Not because eastern society demand us to do so.

All the issues happen during the marriage life, husband and wife sit together to discuss the best way to decide. And having family is not always tiring. There are happiness in struggeling togother for a better life. Working together with ones we love to be better humans. Seeing baby walking for the firs time. A two years old hug me to express his love. Those are heart warming.

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I appreciate my husband struggle and fight to earn money and give us shelter and protection just as I apprciate my self doinf the house hold chores and teaching the children, installing good habit and values as muslim and mankind.

Phew… what a talk.

Thank you for reading. For all moms around the world. Keep being happy as you are indeed matter. You are one of the reason your family life keep running an normal daily life.

Nurul 27:1:2020

Bogor, West Java

Tired to be a mom?

Tag

keep sanity for young mom, Life, moms life, mother of toddlers, no nanny, parenting

Having two two toddlers at home. No nanny, no house assistant. One of my son is having toilet training and lately ‘accident’ often happen in the morning. I got to clean the bad with some soap and water sprayed, wash some pillows by hand and washing the bad sheet with washing machine. Yes, more laundry of course.

Then, giving my sons a shower, and put clothes on him to prepare his zoom tahfidz class. At the same time, preparing breakfast for my husband who is working, almost relentlessly, from home and for me and for my sons.

Hanging the next laudry to dry after collecting the laudry that have dried earlier under this rainy season of Indonesia.

Thinking what meals for lunch and dinner. And sweeping the floor. Not to mention doing the dishes I havent finished last night.

What is all of these?

First, yes these all tiring. But, if I do clean the clothes that are stained by urine because of Allah I will feel relieve. “O Allah you asks us to clean the najees, so i did this because of you asking me to do so.”

Second, the meal I prepare. All of the member of my family are amanah for me. It is an honour to prep delicious halal healthy food for them. To make them stay heathy and strong.

Third, laundry and all the routine. I do that to make my family life cycle running normaly. When they need t shirt or pants there are available. No need to stress out because they are run out of dialy wears.

Does my husband help? He does. But his hands are super full right now. Sometime he stay up really late to finish his work. He rarely has free time recently.

It is just not wise to force him to give me a hand. He does throwing the garbage and receiving online groceries or stuff from delivery services before our fence which I appreciate so much.

Why doing all of these? Having family is tiring and raising kids are challenging.

Because that what Allah is asking muslim to do so. We are asked to get married, have kids and raise them properly. Not because eastern society demand us to do so.

All the issues happen during the marriage life, husband and wife sit together to discuss the best way to decide. And having family is not always tiring. There are happiness in struggeling togother for a better life. Working together with ones we love to be better humans. Seeing baby walking for the firs time. A two years old hug me to express his love. Those are heart warming.

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I appreciate my husband struggle and fight to earn money and give us shelter and protection just as I apprciate my self doinf the house hold chores and teaching the children, installing good habit and values as muslim and mankind.

Phew… what a talk.

Thank you for reading. For all moms around the world. Keep being happy as you are indeed matter. You are one of the reason your family life keep running an normal daily life.

Nurul 27:1:2020

Bogor, West Java

Approval

Tag

fighting insecurities, people pleasing, Percaya diri, self confident

Sering kita memikirkan bahwa kita harus diterima oleh semua orang. That everyone should like us. Endingya jadi people pleasing yang ujung ujungnya jadi capek sendiri.

Padahal orang terkeren dibumi pun masih ada yang tidak suka beliau, apalah lagi kita manusia biasa yang sering banyak khilaf dan lupa

Seiring berjalannya waktu, prioritas akan jadi berubah dan tanggung jawab akan bertambah. Saatnya mulai melakukan dan menempatkan posisi siapa yang harus kita dengarkan ujarannya. Allah kemudian Nabi Muhammad saw .

Next kalau masih jomblo maka itu adalah orang tua. Kalau sudah menikah, maka itu suami.

Baru kemudian circle terdekat yaitu keluarga dan best friends.

Next, friends

Then aquintance, baru orang umum, netizen, atau siapalah namanya..

So, when you have comfirmed your decision isn’t against the law and have been approved by your parent or spause, then go ahead. You dont need people approval for what good you think you should do.

Be confindent, as there will always be haters and likers out there. Stand up and rise. Go with your decision.

I am more than this

I am more than this
I am more than this piles of  these unfolded clothes

I am more than this piles of dishes
I am more than this unswept rooms

Down this stairs
Next to the washing machine
I am up to something

Civilzation?!

You name it!

All right..
All right..

You are welcome..

Happiness

Tag

happiness, humanbeing, Life, selfrespect

Do we deserve it

Happiness can not be buy by money.This world has put so much burden in our shoulder. Wed the routine, catch up with targets that we have set, accomplish several things -and merely to start to accomplish others without even giving our self a smile-. That’s it all about. We forget that we deserve to be happy. Being happy doing the routine. Being happy catching the targets, and celebrate any accomplishment we have accomplished no matter how gigantic or tiny it is.

Somtimes we need to take a break and lay back. That sometime we need tosmile seeing a to do ist we need to do. Do it with happiness. Sound strange, but will do same routine with boredom atmosphere? It will drain your energy. And it will make you finish the to do list checked longer.

You are not and idiot one. You know what you are doing. Some good trait and habits need to be build with certain intention, continuity, consciousness, strongly willed. It takes struggle to build them sometimes. But what else will you expect? It all what it takes to be better decent human being. Or you’ll end up in being just like the ordinary, just like the others, people in average. What is fun in that?

Life need struggle to be better, but don forget to legit every minute you strive with tons of happiness in you mind and heart

Nurul Huda

Bogor, 24:7:2020 4.00am

Postingan IG

Tag

agar tidak terbuai sosmed, instagram, instagrampost

Kadang ada yang mempost dengan biasa. Dengan baju biasa dan latar biasa.

Ada yang mempost, dengan terpaksa. Memaksakan diri agar tampak bahagia dan punya. Terlalu sering melihat dunia dengan “make up”nya, kadang bisa membuat mati rasa. Terlalu sering melihat ke atas akan membuat leher pegal dan mata kelilipan.

Sederhana itu kadang dibutuhkan untuk ditampilkan, agar tertampar mata mata yang selama ini haus akan keglamouran.

Bogor, december 14 2019

Fighting desires (shopping addict)

“Owh that cupboard will be awesome for storing clothes.” “That utensil will be facinating to store my stationaries.” Hmm.. that big shining toy car is perfect for my son.”

Notification from online store “super discount for baby needs” or “super low price for furniture” or simple other appealing promo. And other advertisment or promo celebrating the idea of shopping and shopping..

Sounds familiar?

I have been there. It ends up pilling up goods in my house and many of them are not used or stored in a storage room or somewhere else.

I have repented to that materialsm, at least up to this moment. I come to conclution to question my self who sometime follow my whimps and desire of having more and more. You know, emak emak needs. Not fancy stuff though,im not into jewellery person anyway, but to stuff that ‘seems’ useful for house hold chores.

Here are my reasons to stop..

I read KonMari inspirated book, an Indonesian author wrote that. There I learn that piles of unused stuff which consume a lot of space the house will affect our feeling and mind. Less but useful and functional stuff will help us to feel tranquality inside. There I also learn to fight against the urge to buy other stuff that is not necessary. It is not only to save space and money it will also bring peace inside me. As I will live in a neater spacious rooms in my house. Not to mention, it will also save the earth as I go to my second point.

Lately I read instastory from my friend @wepukuma, there is a call to save earth by bringing refilled bottle when you go out, avoind using plastic bag, buy less new things. Yes, less new things means helping to save earth as well. Since it means less used things or less garbage so you will save earth.

Then now I understand the statement of my husband when I plea him to buy things “Nu, dont you think you can use that as a subtitute? Do you think you really need to buy that stuff ?” As a debater I can find hundreds of justification of why I should buy one. But now I realize I shouldnt create one that is based on what is “IN” today or simply becouse I see someones important in instagram using that stuff.

And for the toys of toddler, I listen to Elly Risman in Net TV at youtube, one of toddlers best toys are those which they create with their parents. Like making shoes box and rope into a car together. That the best one rather than ‘simply’ buying big shining expensive toy car.

Nurul Huda, noctrunal writer this time

Depok 2:1:2019

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Alhamdulillah sekarang sudah jadi Ibu dari 2 orang calon pemimpin masa depan, insyaAllah.

It has been a while im not writing. Busy about posting things on other social media. Tonight I just made a mile stone. Reducing account I follow in my instagram into 100+ only. It brings more calm in my busy head as someone who love to analyze things. Finally.

Anyway, I followed MBTI test again. The result is I’m an INTP, tadaaaa.. finally I am become an introvert person. wkwkwk.. My friend Milda told me that that is common to change into other type as time goes by since in chapter of life we face different people, different situation, challenge and opportunity.

I tell you guys one thing, next March I am going to be 29, now I am listening to a kocakres song a song I listen in my college life about 7 years ago back then in 2011. I am old enough now, I have been graduated from high school 9 years ago. Sometime I cannot realize that I have been a mom of two, my age is 28, I live with a man I admired and no longer live in Padang.

. . .

In this December, a tsunami Hit region in Selat Sunda, death smells closer this time. I often think about my death. About my debt to Allah I haven’t paid a.k.a fasting. What will happen if I enter the other realm that I cannot get back to this world anymore. I aint wanna pretending to be pious or what, but the fact that I have been bored, overwhelmed, with errands for sometimes lead me thinking “death could be better” answered by Quran which makes me stunned. The next day  after thinking of death could be better, I read Al Quran. I found that after death there is a border I cannot trespass and what I will go to is the judgement day. The only thing the dead ask to God is to return to this world to do good deeds. Man!! RETURN and DO GOOD deeds. That what they want. Suddenly I am stunned and evaluate my thought that I have prepare hard and do hard for my afterlife life. I have to do extra miles in this dunia for not being regret after being buried 6 feet beneath the ground.

In 2019 InsyaAllah I will be equipped with awesome detailed life planning book. My brother Irsyad shows me a link to order that book. For an thinker like me, book is necessary. Cannot be replaced with any apps on gadget.

Anyway, thanks for reading guys. Where ever you are. 😀

 

Nurul Huda

Depok 29:12:2018